How Mature People Should Approach Dating

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Guest poster, Matt Hughes, believes that friendships are incredibly important regardless of which stage of life you are at and developing new relationships is something that no one should be afraid of. He currently works for the Lovestruck online dating site.

 

 

Trying to get back in the proverbial dating pool as a mature individual can feel like a very tough endeavour, indeed. After many years, perhaps of being married raising children, having a career, one finds themselves thrust back into single life. Being single and older does not mean that one is doomed to live the rest of one's life lonely and alone, but the traditional means of ‘meeting people’ often do not appeal to the older crowd.

 

Many people who find themselves single once again are not into the bar scene, no longer want to be a part of the club scene or many of the other traditional venues for meeting new people. So what does one do to find someone at an older age?

 

Get Involved in Social Activities

 

One of the benefits of getting older is that we know what we like and enjoy in life. This, actually, is also the key to meeting someone after we reach a ‘certain age.’ Joining groups that are based around hobbies, interests or activities that you find enjoyable is a great way to meet like-minded people who may share some of your passions and interests. Many people find that a close friendship can blossom into something more when people share a common interest. This, in many ways, whittles down one's romantic potentials to those who at least share certain interests with you which can be a good place to start a relationship from.

 

Friends First

 

Being a part of these social groups is a great way to make friends. Naturally, we will be drawn towards these people as we have a common interest. This friendship is often where relationships begin. For older individuals, the need for excitement and newness isn't often there, we want comfort and someone we can talk to and get along with. Friendships can naturally flow into something more.

 

Becoming friends first with members of the opposite sex allows one to get to know the other person before taking that proverbial plunge into a romantic relationship. It gives the relationship time to develop into something special, unique and maybe something a bit more than just friendship.

 

 

Finding Something Special

 

Common interests and friendship are the foundation for any healthy, positive relationship. As we go through life we are certain to learn more about our own needs within a potential partner as well as the important aspects of what a good relationship is. Being able to trust someone as well as being honest can be more important than many other aspects of a relationship although good friendships do involve these features, with love there has to be a little sparkle too.  Accepting people have been through their own journey up till now and being open to living life together at this point and not keeping the past in the present is important for people seriously looking for a new partner later on in their life.

 

 

Families and Friends

 

 

Dating can also bring up a few family issues, as with dating when you are younger your family will always have an opinion about who you are dating, and it is important to help these two important aspects of your life get along. It is odd to think into your twilight years there might be issues over which family you will be spending the holidays with. It might be that you have children who will be a little shocked at you finding someone at this point and it may take them a while to accept your new partner.

 

 

Friends can also know of people who are like minded and would certainly get along especially if they have lost someone, are going through a divorce or some other difficult point of life. These commonalities can be an incredible bonding experience and sharing how you feel about these experiences can mean you no longer feel so alone. This can lead to a very strong friendship or something more. Although introducing and setting people up to date doesn’t always work out, sometimes a friend can introduce you to someone special without meaning to.

 

 

Having Fun

 

 

Joining clubs or groups as a single can help you share common interests or hobbies, or a holiday is another great way to meet new people and make new friends. As someone who is maturing you will realise how important quality of life is, finding the things that you love in life and having some fun will be the best way to attract a new partner. People are attracted to people who know how to enjoy life even if it is just as friends at first; these friendships are often what can be the spark of a romantic relationship in the future.

 

 

 

 

 

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